Communication can be
said to be a two-way process of reaching mutual understanding, in which
participants not only exchange information, ideas or feelings but also create
and share meaning.
Relationships don’t exist
in a vacuum. They exist between two emotional human beings who bring their own
past experiences, history, and expectations into it. Two different people also
have different levels of skill when it comes to communication. But better
communication can be learned because it is a skill.
Communication either
makes or breaks most relationships. You can improve your relationship today,
right now, by putting into practice some of these tips for improving the
communication in your relationship.
Be open and
honest with your partner. Being open means
talking about things you may have never talked about with another human being
before in your life. It means being vulnerable and honest with your partner,
completely. It means opening yourself up to possible hurt and disappointment.
But it also means opening yourself up to the full potential of all a
relationship can be. Sometimes the truth hurts, but it’s the key to a healthy
relationship. Admit that you aren’t always perfect and apologize when you make
a mistake instead of making excuses. You will feel better and it will help
strengthen your relationship.
Pay attention to nonverbal
signals. Most of our communication with one
another in any relationship isn’t what we say, but how we say it. Nonverbal communication is your body language,
the tone of your voice, its inflection, eye contact, and how far away you are
when you talk to someone else. Learning to communicate better means that you
need to learn how to read these signals as well as hear what the other person
is saying. Reading your partner’s nonverbal signals takes time and patience,
but the more you do it, the more accustomed you will be to what they’re really
saying.
Stop and listen. Listening is a very important part of effective communication. A good listener can encourage their partners to talk openly and honestly. Tips for good listening includes showing genuine attention and interests, keeping genuine eye contact, leaning towards your partner to show genuine interest and concern and always ask for feedback from your partners.
Make your message clear. No matter how well you know and
love each other, you cannot read your partner’s mind. We need to communicate
clearly to avoid misunderstandings that may cause hurt, anger or confusion. Avoid
talking about serious matters or issues in writing. Text messages, letters and
emails can be misinterpreted. Talk in person so there aren’t any unnecessary
miscommunications. When
you talk to your partner, try to: Think about what you want to say and what you
are feeling when you said it. Be clear about your message so that your partner
hears it accurately and understands what you mean. Share positive feelings with
your partner, such as what you appreciate and admire about them, and how
important they are to you.
Stay focused. Sometimes discussions turn into arguments. To be respectful of one another and the relationship, try and keep the arguments focused to the topic at hand.
Find the right time. If something is bothering you and you would like to
have a serious conversation about it, make sure you pick the right time to
talk. Don’t interrupt your partner when they’re watching a sports game, TV
show, about to go to sleep or stressed about an upcoming test or event. Tell
your partner you would like to talk later and find a time when you’re in the
same room and not doing anything important. Don’t start serious conversations
in public places unless you feel safe.
If your partner does
something that makes you angry, you need to tell them about it. But you don’t
have to do so right away. Remember your partner can’t read your mind. If you
don’t speak up when you’re upset, there is no way for them to apologize or
change. Once you do mention your hurt feelings and your partner sincerely
apologies, let it go. Don’t bring up past issues if they’re not relevant.
It’s okay to get angry in a relationship. Everyone does at
some point! What’s important is that you resolve fight in a healthy way. If you
get angry with your partner, here are a few steps to take:
1. Stop, take a step back and breathe.
Give yourself time to calm down.
2.
Think
about the situation and why you got so angry after you’re no longer upset.
3. Talk to your partner and when you
do, follow the tips above.
4. Listen to what they have to say after you
tell your partner how you feel. You both deserve the opportunity to express how
you feel in a safe and healthy environment.
Communication is not
about who is right or wrong, but instead about helping each other see things
from each others perspective, so that you can be on the page and avoid any
misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments. We can all learn how to
improve the way we communicate.
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